Mum cries as bride refuses to let her bring eight-year-old son into wedding

A mum has been left in tears after her son was evicted from a brunch, as it did not occur to her that there would be an issue.

According to this ticked-off mother, her sister-in-law, who recently got married, specified that no children were invited to the and when her partner asked if her eight-year-old son could come along, he was told no.

No children were included in the wedding, apart from the bride's other brother's daughter, who was a The other brother’s three stepchildren, the youngest of whom is thirteen, were also not given invitations.

Still, she thought there might still be some wiggle room for negotiation, and decided to ask the outright.

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Taking to Mumsnet, the unnamed mother recalled: "I then asked her directly if I could bring him in the evening, she said that she wasn’t having an evening do but the invitation clearly went into the evening, what she said was she meant a separate evening do. No extra guests were coming in the evening."

As her ex-partner wasn't available to care for their son that evening, they'd arranged for him to have a sleepover with a friend. However, as they were heading off at 9am sharp the following morning, the fed-up wedding guest felt she had no choice but to leave the hotel early to collect her child, returning with him in time for a brunch that had been arranged.

Although it didn't occur to her that this "would be a problem", she soon realised her son was also not welcome at the brunch, resulting in an awkward scene.

She wrote: "So we arrive and queue to get into the breakfast area, where I assumed brunch was, but it was in a separate room, and only my name was down; they refused to allow my son in. I refused to leave him to go into brunch to ask if he could come in.

"Partner had left his phone, so finally, the brunch spilt out to the lawn, and we joined them. We were both starving, so I went to get plates. His sister came over to my son and essentially asked him to leave, sort of gently asking him to go out on the lawn with my partner. Partner left with us, and we had breakfast in the public bit.

"I actually started to cry over breakfast, then my son did. I am ashamed of myself for this. I get I was unreasonable over wedding but the Brunch surely I wasn’t. Did I make too many assumptions?"

Reaching out to fellow Mumsnet users for advice, the woman clarified that the bride and groom have both met her son and that she has lived with her partner for a year. She added: "Partner is a bit shocked, but obviously it was their actual wedding."

Unfortunately, not everybody was on her side, with some users believing she should have just stuck to the specified childfree rules, even for the post-wedding brunch. One person commented: "If she made it clear she wasn’t inviting children (except for bridesmaid) then it was a bit odd to bring your son along. I would assume if it’s a clear ‘no children’ then it applies to the whole thing. The brunch was clearly a part of the wedding celebrations. Why not just collect your son and miss this bit, seeing as you’d already had the main celebrations?"

Another agreed: "How rude of you to show up with your son when being clearly told he was not invited. Why didn't you just grab something to eat for your son separately from the guests? By going there with your son, you made everyone uncomfortable, and most of all your son. A no is a no."

Taking a more sympathetic view, a third person remarked: "I'm reading it that the brunch was the day after the wedding. I don't think I would have brought my child to it, but I can understand why you did - it's s*** you put him in the position where he cried, but it's the bride cared enough about brunch the day after her wedding to make an eight-year-old not attend."

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